Blind Spots

Blind spots.

This term has come up in a few conversations recently and even in a television show that I watch regularly.

I’ve been thinking about what they are and aren’t and how we can work around them.

Isn’t it weird (and scary) that a car or motorcycle can be in a blind spot as you’re zipping down the freeway at 70 miles per hour?

That’s why there are bumper stickers reminding us to look twice. We can miss stuff the first time. Especially when we’re really concentrating and focused on the task at hand.

We all know of car accidents and injuries that were a result of blind spots. The driver’s eyes aren’t damaged but there is a problem with perspective or the angle at which he/she is looking in the mirror.

I think sometimes we have blind spots in relationships as well.

We can have a blind spot where another person is concerned. It can be a grudge that we’ve held for a long, long time. Perhaps we continue to enable a loved one, thinking that it will help. It could be a relationship has soured because many little hurts have built up for so long that we don’t even remember why we’re mad anymore. We just KNOW that we’re upset and every little thing the other person does bugs the heck out of us.

In my mind, those are blind spots.

They’re dangerous and can have lasting consequences.

I thought of a few things I can do to locate and deal with any blind spots in my life.

First, check the mirror twice (or more). I’m not just talking about the side view mirror on a car here. I’m referring to checking to make sure that the person looking back at me isn’t the problem. Maybe I’ve been blinded to my own bad attitude. Perhaps I haven’t thought through the consequences of the words I’ve carelessly uttered.

Second, ask someone I trust for help. A few important points here. If I truly want to know if I have a blind spot or two in my life I have to know who I can trust to help me identify it. Have you ever backed out of a driveway or snug parking spot and asked someone to be your “spotter”? It is most likely you would ask someone that knows what you need and may have some experience with it. It’s doubtful that you’d ask your 4 year old neighbor kid for advice on getting out of a tight spot.

Third, I can argue all I want with whomever will listen but IF there is a car in my blind spot and I ignore the signs and the help that is offered and dart into the lane anyway I am going to crash into the vehicle that is there. My point here is that if I ask for help of a trusted family member or friend about the blind spots in my life then I need to be prepared to hear what he or she has to say. It doesn’t mean I have to take the advice but if I ask I should listen and consider what I’m told.

I know I have blind spots. I told you about one a few months back in this post. I’m grateful that someone cared enough to point out, in a loving way, that I had a lot to learn.

I’m inviting you to leave a comment below.

Thank you so much for reading!

 

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