A comment one of the hooligans posted on her Facebook page just caught my attention.
There are forest fires going on relatively close to the area where she lives. One of her aunts just asked if her home was ok and she replied, “I don’t know. I’m out of town and am trying not to stress because it is out of my control.” On one hand, of course, as her mom I am glad that she isn’t even in the same state as her home right now. On the other hand, I empathize with her because she is away.
Unknown stuff is scary.
The thing is, however, that even if she was at home, there would still be nothing she could do about it. The fire would still be out of her control.
The older I get the more I realize the less (about life in general) I can control. I cannot control the weather, the economy, the decisions others make and myriad other things in the world. I have no say in the price of beef, gasoline, milk or a new car. The other thing I have come to understand is that stressing about the things over which I have no control doesn’t help. Hand wringing, worrying and agitation don’t change the situation in any way-except, perhaps, to make it worse.
I respect the hooligan for her statement because, to me, it shows that she is making a deliberate choice not to stress. She has thought this through. Attempting to rush back to her home, even if she could, would not help the situation.
I’m not always successful in this, by the way. Sometimes I worry about the weather, the economy, the decisions others make, the decisions I make and a whole lot of other things. It helps to take a step back, attempt to discern what, if anything, I can do in a situation with the information I have. I may not be able to control the weather, but that doesn’t mean I’ll be out at the beach in a hurricane. The national debt is beyond my pay grade to fix but I can choose how to control my own spending.
I can’t control the forest fire but I can pray for rain and the safety of those attempting to extinguish it. And offer a prayer of thanks, as well, for a daughter wise enough to realize stressing about something out of her control is not wise.
How do you keep from stressing about things that are out of your control?