We can bring peace by being quiet in difficult situations.
My sister in law and I were discussing this on a recent bike ride. We concluded that usually a reactionary comment is not the best choice. When I hold my tongue and think about what I want to say it is usually much safer than if I blurt out what comes to mind initially. My first thought is typically defensive and about me. If, however, I weigh my words more carefully I will be able to think about the impact on the other individual.
As we pedaled we talked about how relationships are ruined because of hasty words. Our harsh comments can be forgiven but not forgotten.
The up side of all this is that when we think before we speak we can bring peace to a situation. Change the climate, so to speak. C and I related instances from our lives when we have had to say (or hear) difficult things.
We agreed it turns out better if it is done at the right time, in the right way, with the right motive.
What do you think?