Welcome The First Gray Hair?

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photo credit: TheArches via photopin cc

Of course, no one can really welcome the first gray hair or look upon the first wrinkles as beautiful, but even those things need not affect our happiness. There is no reason why we should not be merry as we grow older.  If we learn to look on the bright side while we are young, those little wrinkles at the corner of the eyes will be ‘laughing wrinkles” instead of ‘crow’s feet.’

 

There is nothing in the passing of the years by itself to cause one to become melancholy. If they have been good years, then the more of them the better. If they have been bad years, be glad they are passed and expect the coming ones to be more to your liking.

Laura Ingalls Wilder  Little House In The Ozarks  – edited by Stephen W. Hines

Living in a community filled with elderly people allows me to see seniors in all walks of life.  An eye opening experience, to be sure.

Many have severe physical or memory issues preventing an active life style. Others seem incredibly lonely or sad. Some are active in social and volunteer activities many days a week.

When my friend and I went out for dinner a few weeks back we saw a group of seniors that made us smile.  There were 10 or 12 of them and they were seated before us. I had watched them walk in, 2 or 3 at a time.

My friend and I stayed for a few hours and this same group walked out right before us.  When they exited the restaurant they stopped as a group right in front of the door-still laughing, chatting, hugging and shaking hands.

Deb and I laughed at how cute they were and until we realized we weren’t really that much younger. Our laughter trickled down to a snicker. The little huddle moved down the parking lot a bit and, as they all had seemed to park near each other, they were still talking and stopped AGAIN.

It is inconceivable that in a group that size sickness and sorrow wasn’t represented and yet, collectively, they were a merry group. They could have chosen to stay home, have a pity party for the fact that they were growing older by the minute and yet that was not what I saw.

I love the perspective Mrs. Wilder offers whether the years have been good or bad. Often it is the lens through which we view something that determines our attitude.

There are times I bemoan the graying of my hair and then I think of friends and family members that have lost their hair as a result of chemo. Gray hair isn’t so bad.

Do you have any thoughts about aging that you would like to share?  If so, there is a space for you in the comment section below.

6 comments

  1. Pat klugPat says:

    I can only assume that the women you saw would fall into my peer group, so I feel comfortable giving my viewpoint on this. Although it seems that all of my friends, or at least the majority, will never see the grey that might be lurking on our heads because we color our tresses. We have talked about this and decided this is how we like presenting ourselves to the world. It’s not a question of trying to recapture our youth so much as we like our looks better without going auu’natural. Not giving up makeup either! Of course, we all also agree that as a group, we don’t look our age, and laugh at what we once thought was “old age” since that’s where we all are now. Yep, we laugh, talk,and enjoy life, even though each of us has had burdens that could have dragged us down if we didn’t have each other. Friendship is the true Fountain of Youth.

    • Cindi says:

      Every time you reply MOMD says to tell you to write a blog! I told him you are too busy having fun, enjoying life and traveling. I do think it would be fun and sassy though-like you! Pat, I believe that friends help to keep us moving and to be sure, keep us honest, by reminding us-if necessary- to color the roots or throw on some lipstick. I can only assume that when a restaurant or cruise or whatever is invaded by you and your pals there is a little more noise, a little more laughter and a whole lot more beauty.

  2. Jill says:

    I was getting a haircut while visiting my kids in California about 5 yrs ago. The stylist talked about the need for me to cover a bit of gray hair that was starting to appear. As I started to say, “I earned those gray hairs,” she cut me off to say that NO one should want gray hair and not to say that I earned them.
    I didn’t go back to her. AND she did a terrible job on my bangs!
    I’m happy with each stage in life (except for some aches and pains!) and grateful for friends who share time together!

    • Cindi says:

      There really is a lot of negativity about the elderly and the process of aging! I’m glad to say that your bangs grew out nicely 🙂 and agree that EACH stage of life has joys and pitfalls. Live it up!

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